Archive for November, 2010


I have an awesome marriage

November 27, 2010

“I know it’s not true, but sometimes I feel less loved because of x, y, z, and I would feel much more loved if you could be/do more a, b, c. Tell me, how do you feel? What can I do to make you feel more loved?”

This method – doing all you can to make your spouse feel more loved – is not a guarantee, but the basics, for an awesome marriage. Read “The Five Languages of Love” by Gary Chapman. Strongly recommended.

We’ve been married soon 8 years, and we love each other more and more for every year.

The Bible tells us “Love your wife”. This means that if you don’t – you’re living in sin.

Actually it says to love her as Jesus loved his bride. How did he love his bride? He gave his life to her out of unconditional love. His bride did not deserve anything. He gave his life for his bride when his bride shouted “Crucify him”. We are commanded to show our spouse the same love,. That means that if you don’t love your spouse as much as you did when you got married, you’re living in sin.

Repent, and love your wife. Unconditionally.

It’s Shabbat. We had a great Kiddush yesterday. And some great time with wife in the evening after the kids went to bed. Coffee, chocolate,white wine, Friends on DVD, and later on, an online game of scrabble. Shabbat is one of the greatest gifts God has given us.

Now it’s Shabbat morning. Congregation is meeting too far away so we’ll be having a family worship today instead. Its 10 AM. The three big kids are playing (and fighting) in their room. I’m trying to get the smallest one to go to sleep. He’s really tired by tries to force himself to be awake (6 months old). Wife has gone to help a friend with back pain.

Now I need to get dressed and start to get some dishes done. Then I’ll need to plan some sort of family worship.

God is awesome.


Shabbat Shalom!

November 5, 2010
It’s Erev Shabbat and it’s husband-and-wife alone-time. "Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love." /Prov 5:18-19. Did you know that this verse can be applied to a game of scrabble, or just having a cup of coffee together in the sofa? Just laughing together.

Gender roles

November 3, 2010
PinkBlueRI bought bottle brushes today. I was forced to choose between blue and pink. I hate that choice.

I mean… it’s either blue – which means that I succumb to society’s pressure that there are “boyish” things and “girlish” things. I hate the way kindergarten is trying to push my kids into those roles in any case. Or I choose pink which means that I am running against the stream just for spite. Which means that I might as well turn my pants inside out. I don’t want to succumb to society’s pressure. But neither do I want to run against the stream for spite. I want me to be me and I want my kids to be who they are for who they are. I want to run in the stream diagonally and in circles as God leads me, regardless what people think!


The Jewish Community in Sweden

November 2, 2010

What do you say? Are they right? You people in Sweden – is there a future for Jews in Sweden?

As for me, I will continue to encourage any Jews anywhere to come home to Israel. It’s our only true home. But I agree with what they said – come because you love Israel. Don’t come out of fear for antisemitism. Don’t let them feel that they’ve “chased” you out.

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